Relationships and the Emotion Code

So, you are off to find a new partner, employer, friend, etc. Great! Congratulations! I wish you well on your new adventure. As you begin your new adventure, I ask though, have you cleared emotions that trigger old behaviors, thoughts or feelings? You may say, I have healed, forgiven, forgotten, etc. and I'm ready to go. On the surface that is probably true, but our subconscious can remember things your conscious may not, or may not allow you to access. You may feel that those things will never affect what you are moving towards. As Billy Joel sang, "You may be wrong, but you may be right".

Keep reading to see how for some addressing trapped emotions in relationships have made a difference.

One of my clients has been married for over ten years. However, one day she was at a red light and spied in the next car a former boyfriend. That one moment launched feelings that she didn't realize had been affecting her relationship with her husband and ultimately her marriage. After our session releasing trapped emotions related to the former boyfriend situation, she reported she noticed a shift in her marriage. Things seemed easier with her husband and their bond increased.

Another example is a client who is working through a divorce. Divorces are hard enough, but now, she is moving towards a new relationship and finds certain patterns of her behavior emerging in her new relationship that she doesn't want to have because she wants to be able to be her true authentic self at all times, but especially with her new partner. As we worked through our session, fears and traumas of how her former spouse reacted to her when she was being her authentic self emerged. We released those, and she has found peace and ease with being her authentic self with her new partner, which has allowed her to have the type of relationship she truly wants.

Even a new employer or co-worker may unearth traumas and behaviors. I have worked in several toxic workplaces in my past. Whether it was a work culture or a particular boss's behaviors, I personally recognize when a triggered response or behavior pops to the surface due to a past experience. Because I've spent a significant amount of time working on healing myself, I now find myself, after one of those responses, pausing and automatically my brain says what was that and why? It usually only takes a moment to process what the individual said or did before my brain flashes an image of a moment or an image of a particular individual. Depending on the situation I'm in at the moment, I will immediately grab a magnet off my wall or out of my purse or in a pinch when I'm magnetless, I'll use my fingers, and do a quick trapped emotion release on myself. I know that once I have done that my own reactions or responses will not manifest again based on the trigger. The more I do those releases the more calm and at peace I feel at work even when the situation is chaotic or highly stressful. Also, the interaction with the individual who sparked the initial reaction shifts, so our interactions feel less tense.

The point of these examples is to help show that in our conscious mind we are ready for new relationships, new employers, new whatever; however, our subconscious minds know that we may have hidden emotions that need to be released to give us a better outcome with our new whatever.