Starting Work on Your North Star

In my post, Follow the Star, I spoke of the North Star leading you to heal in 2023. Since the new year has just begun, I thought this would be an opportunity for me to give you an example of how simple it is to begin to change one or more points on your North Star. Take a quick walk with me through the process; this is my personal process and experience, and you are free to change the process and make it yours. Everyone is different; therefore, your path from Point A to Point B may not be identical to mine, so I encourage you to allow your heart and inner voice to lead you.

For those of you who don't know me, my full-time job is working in the individual/family health insurance market. From October 15th through January 1st, we are in open enrollment. It is very busy at the office, and we work long hard days (most are ten plus hours), usually seven days a week. This year has been particularly stressful and overwhelming. So, it was during one of those hard December days that I had met the moment of all I could take. (It usually takes a lot to get me to the breaking point, but once I reached that moment, it was too late to turn back.) The dragon had been unleashed. (Godspeed.) I'm not proud of those rare moments; I actually hate myself later and have a sense of self-loathing and regret, which is where my North Star point of healing begins.

HOW DID I CHOSE MY DAGGER?

After the dragon was unleashed and I crawled home to my den to transform back into myself after self-chastising and self-loathing began, I started thinking about how the transformation started. I wanted a time for peace during the month, even five minutes a day would have been welcome, but that had not come. The longer I went without time for peace, the more I had grown frustrated. The fiery chaos was fueled by individuals and situations which continually stoked and enlarged the fire each passing minute. When challenged to the brink, the Hyde was revealed. The self-loathing and reflection process led me to recall two individuals in my life who always seem to have peace and who react to chaos with grace and calm like Jackie Onassis. One individual has the innate ability to never see how others behave towards her as if it were a personal attack. She knows to the deepest depths of her soul that the actions and words of others show her where they are and their issues; it isn't about her at all. The other individual is always the epitome of grace. She speaks truth with calm command and calms the storms around her with quiet, confident power. This remembrance lead me to choose my dagger for healing and helped me set my goal.

WHERE TO BEGIN?

With my dagger yanked from my proverbial North Star, I set off on my next step which was to set my goal: I wanted the point of light in my North Star to be a reflection of disconnect and grace in stressful, continuous chaos. Next, I asked myself WHY? Is this for me? Is this for others? Why do I care? Why would I want that when others do not give me the same respect? As I mentioned earlier, I don't like when I become Hyde and unleash the dragon. I have recently learned why I react in the manner I do since but have not managed to tame or heal that yet. For me, this would be a first step though. Also, as a person who wants to be a light in this world, I don't want to be the bearer of darkness, no matter the circumstances. So this is for me, this is for others, and for the world. I do care; if I didn't, I wouldn't react the way I do went the moments are over nor would I seek the opportunity to heal. As for the others who treat me without respect, I know they are the way they are for one or more reasons, and they need to heal. They are showing me who they are underneath and that they have issues too. I can't hold that against them.

CREATE YOUR QUESTIONS and PLAN YOUR INVESTIGATION

Once I set my goal and understood why, it was time for me to figure out how I would to address this. I have found in my own healing work with the Emotion/Body Code that I need to look at the healing process like a detective and write questions even if they seem stupid or a waste to me. In the long run, this part of the process leads me to a higher level of healing and sometimes circumnavigates the direct line of attack to a different area that mysteriously connected to the original core of what I was trying to heal. Because my plan was to use Emotion/Body Code as my modality for healing, I built my questions based on my plan to delve into healing there. These are my core questions:

• Is it safe for me to get rid of explosive reaction to constant chaos? [This seems like a really stupid question to me. However, when I wrote it, I started to think about the reasons behind the response and wondered if it was part of a protective response that I may or may not have needed to feel safe in the past and worse yet the present.]

• Is there something that contributes to my reaction to constant chaos? [You may be thinking this is obvious. Your frustration, anger, etc. On the surface, that may be true. However, knowing that other life experiences may contribute that have nothing to due with the moment in which I was experiencing in the present may exist, I have to ask.]

• Can energies be released that will decrease or rid me of explosive reactions to constant chaos? Do I need to identify what they are or what life events they include?

• Are there any blocks from being able to demonstrate grace through continuous chaos? [As with any energy work or advancement, we may have blocks preventing you from healing or moving forward. We can create our own walls and programs that prevent us from accomplishing what we want. You never know what might be lurking in the shadows.]

• Are there any blocks from being able to feel peace through continuous chaos?

Know that these are my core starting questions. As you work through your process, know that other questions may need to be written or questions may naturally come up.

CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF BEFORE MOVING ON

"The universe always replaces what exits your life with something bigger and better. Don't be stuck holding onto the past or resisting change. Welcome new energy. Let go of what needs to be removed. There are great blessings in surrendering and allowing. Keep shining." - Author Unknown.

This quote is important to the next step. We can write down our goals and understand why. We can write our list of questions; however, if we are not ready for change, we will block ourselves from healing. We have to accept blessings and allow the change. We have to ready ourselves. For some, this is the hardest part. When we agree to heal, we have to accept that things will be different, so you need to prepare yourself. Are you ready?

READY FOR BETTER

After writing my questions, I spent a few moments with my angels and guides letting them know I was seeking their guidance and assistance then spent about an hour and a half releasing energies using the Emotion/Body Codes. As always, I was amazed at the energies that came up and was stunned to learn how many trapped post-hypnotic and broadcast messages I released and what they were. After the session, I felt tired but peaceful. I felt my dagger had been transformed into a point of light which I promptly put back on my North Star.

THIS LITTLE LIGHT OF MINE

Even though my new point of light is in place, the light is not quite as bright as I would like it to be. It is part of the experience and the process. Those of you who have had sessions with me have probably heard me say that one of my favorite movies is Shrek. In the movie, Shrek tells Donkey that ogres are like onions with lots and lots of layers. I see healing work like peeling layers of an onion; you peel the outer layer to get to the next layer, then the next, and on and on until you reach and heal the core. Healing is not instantaneous; it is a process. It takes time and work, but the reward is worth every second you spend...I promise you. Don't let the process nor the amount of time be what prevents you from healing; there are no timelines. Your journey is yours. Move at your own pace; all I ask is for you to just keep working at it. "Keep shining."

As I said, my light isn't quite "a radiant beam from heaven afar," I did recognize a peacefulness and calm during chaos of the work day for a week or so following my energy work. However, if I am being transparent and honest, as the chaos around me grew to higher levels of intensity as the days continued forward, I found myself grumbling angrily under my breath at my desk and on occasion a little louder; however, it was different than before my session; progress had been made, but I was not perfect (or at least to the level I wanted it to be). What this tells me is what I removed earlier unearthed deeper hidden energies which have shimmied themselves to the surface waiting for the next session. (The next layer of my onion.) I will return to my same list above and work through the same process until I transform and reach my goal of being grace and calm in chaos.

I hope this post gives you some ideas and inspiration for your healing journey. I hope this lets you know you are not alone in trying to heal, even those of us who help others are still healing ourselves. Most of all, I want to give you hope as we enter 2023 that little steps can make big progress. Instead of making those New Year's Resolutions, why not make a promise to look at one thing inside your soul that could use some love and care. Heal just one thing. It doesn't have to be something huge like healing a major trauma; it can be as small as a moment of forgiveness or seeing how amazing you are by writing a list of all you have accomplished in life despite the unending challenges. Healing begins when you are ready.

My belief for 2023 is magnificence will blossom from what seeds we have planted. I can't wait to see the beautiful blessings that bloom for you. I hope you feel you can share those moments with me; I'd love to celebrate your healing with you.

Many Blessings! Happy New Year!